You’re In Charge: How to Have the Best Sex of Your Life in 2025

Historically, female health and wellness regarding sex (and anything unrelated to childbirth) has been radically overlooked. For years, women have been silently suffering from subpar sex, orgasming less than men, and having their G-spots ignored. It wasn’t until the last few years that we finally started to see a rise in the number of women who decided that enough was enough and began looking for ways to take matters into their own hands.

If you’re one of those women (power to you!) and you’re ready to give yourself and your sex life a major upgrade in the new year, you’ve come to the right place. Regardless of where you are on your sexual journey—whether you’re still learning about yourself, you’re a sex toy novice or seasoned veteran, or you’re trying to have one of those elusive internal orgasms, the 13 sex tips and tricks we’re sharing ahead can help you have the best sex of your life in 2025. Try them out and thank us (and yourself) later.

1. Bring ASMR into the bedroom

Sex may be the last thing you associate with ASMR, but bringing it into the bedroom can increase your pleasure. “Since ASMR is calming to many people, those who have trouble relaxing in the bedroom may find it easier to relax,” says sex educator Suzannah Weiss. This can help you focus on the pleasure you’re feeling in the present moment and create a euphoric experience, as well as make sex deeper and more intimate.

Some popular ASMR sex sounds include moaning, whispering, hearing a condom wrapper open or a partner putting on lubrication, back-scratching, and scalp-massaging. To create a sensory experience you can use audio porn apps like FrolicMe or search for “ASMR sex sounds” on YouTube. You can also try whispering dirty things into your partner’s ear, or have them massage your entire body from head to toe. It’s all about experimenting and finding what works for you. But trust me, if you’re someone who loves ASMR TikTok, chances are, you’ll love incorporating it into your sex life, too.

2. Try ethical sex-ploration

Bumble coined the term “ethical sex-ploration” to describe “approaching sex in a more open-minded way.” This opens up the opportunity for people to have better experiences and sexual self-discovery, regardless of their relationship status, according to Bumble. Going into 2025, learn about your erotic blueprint, experiment with different positions, kinks, or fetishes that you’re comfortable with trying, and don’t be afraid to communicate your desires to a partner! To have a thriving sex life in the new year, set your intentions on keeping an open mind in the bedroom and advocating for your needs and desires.

3. Have tantric sex 

Tantric sex is a more mindful approach to sex that weaves together spirituality, sexuality, and mindfulness to create a sexual experience full of healing, transformation, and enlightenment. It focuses on celebrating the experience and your body rather than orgasming. Getting intentional and having more mindful sex is going to create earth-shattering experiences and increase the intimacy you have with yourself or your partner. Taking the time to regularly practice mindfulness through things such as yoga, meditation, or deep breathing can also help with this.

“To have a thriving sex life in the new year, set your intentions on keeping an open mind in the bedroom and advocating for your needs and desires.”

To have tantric sex, slow down and get to know your body better. You can do this through masturbation, which can help awaken and increase your sexual energy and potentially clear any emotional blocks you may have around sex and self-touch. For partnered sex, full-body massages are a great way to revel in touch beforehand. Likewise, focusing on your breath and allowing yourself to feel everything—every sensation or ounce of pleasure—will help you be more mindful and present during sex.

4. Experiment with praise kink

Praise kink is exactly what it sounds like—someone who gets off on being applauded or recognized. The term first emerged on TikTok and quickly grew in popularity. With praise kink, there is typically some form of power play, with the submissive partner earning the praise, though it can work the other way around. Simply saying things like “good girl” or “good boy” or “you feel so good when…” will get the job done, but nonverbal signs like a kiss on the forehead can also work as well. Since this one has a pretty low entry barrier, experimenting with it can be a great way to spice up your sex life this year.

5. Finally have internal orgasms

Every orgasm is amazing, but there is nothing like the earth-shattering pleasure that comes from having an internal orgasm. According to Certified Sex Coach Mangala Holland, there is a rise in people who are craving a much deeper sense of satisfaction and fulfillment. Holland told Women & Home that individuals are “achieving [orgasms] from G-spot and cervix orgasms, as opposed to the ‘quick release and get on with my day’ vibe of the clitoral orgasm.”

To learn your own anatomy and finally have an internal orgasm (or twenty!), Holland recommends playing around with sex toys like G-spot vibrators or long, straight dildos. In addition, experimenting with different positions and engaging in foreplay, simultaneously stimulating the clitoris, or even having a clitoral orgasm before penetration can also help as well.

6. Play with multi-functional sex toys

In 2025, we’re going to be rethinking our sex toys, and multi-functioning ones are the ones we have our eyes on. Think: many toys in one, long-distance vibrators, couples toys, and eco-friendly ones.

7. Use lube

There’s a common misconception that using lube means the sex is bad—but it’s time to rewrite that narrative. Lube is essential for vagina owners because it can help keep vaginal skin soft and reduce irritation and friction during penetration via either a partner or a toy. Plus, it can seriously enhance your play and arousal, so lube up your fingers, sex toys, or a penis this year with a lubricant filled with ingredients that won’t harm your vulva.

8. Focus on foreplay

Modern-day TV shows and movies have done women a massive injustice by depicting sex as being something you can hop right into. Although foreplay is beneficial for all sexes, it’s crucial for women. Foreplay is both physical and mental, and women need that mind-body connection to get ready for any sort of sexual activity and orgasm which (in the famous words of Nicki Minaj circa 2015) we should be demanding every time.

Oral sex is most commonly associated with foreplay, and while that definitely shouldn’t be off the table, think about different ways you can prepare your mind and body for sex. This could be creating a romantic setting, spritzing on your favorite perfume, wearing clothes you feel sexy in, or teasing your partner in the buildup to the event. You can also try taking a hot bath beforehand to increase blood flow to your vulva or playing a sex game with your partner. The options are truly endless, so give yourself permission to have fun and get creative.

9. Educate yourself

The truth is, the more you know about your own body and reproductive system, the more pleasure you’ll have in the bedroom. And with websites like O.School and Shush Life designed to provide you with sex courses, and companies like MysteryVibe, Maude, and Dame, expanding your knowledge on all things sex is easier than ever.

In addition, learning more about yourself and your sexual responses can also help expand your repertoire. Find out what your erotic blueprint is, read a sex book, or try different sex positions over the weekend. There’s so much information out there, and taking advantage of it will give your sex life a major upgrade.

10. Keep your body healthy

Everything in your body is connected, so it makes sense that a healthy libido is a major indicator of a healthy body. This year, prioritize keeping your body as healthy as possible by getting plenty of rest, drinking enough water, exercising regularly, and eating the right foods. Foods such as oysters, salmon, avocado, and nuts and seeds can promote healthy blood flow throughout the body, improve circulation to the genitals, and increase sex drive. Likewise, eating a balanced diet rich in vegetables and lean proteins can also be beneficial to your sex life. That said, if you feel like you’re not getting enough nutrients, consider talking to your doctor about taking over-the-counter vitamins and supplements to support your health and boost your sex drive.

In addition, focus on strengthening your pelvic floor as well, as there are correlations between weak pelvic floors and sexual dysfunction, like pain during sex. Doing low-impact exercises, like swimming or pilates, or Kegels are some easy ways to do this. However, if you’re experiencing severe discomfort, it’s never a bad idea to consult a professional.

11. Release your stress

It’s no secret that stress can seriously mess with your vaginal health and suppress your sex drive, but stress is simply unavoidable, which is why it’s so vital to have healthy outlets that help you stress less. Regularly doing things like meditation, yoga, deep breathing, or even journaling are some great stress relievers. Likewise, Tai Chi or hobbies such as reading, cooking, or arts and crafts are also healthy ways to release stress.

“Building self-love will help increase your confidence inside and outside of the bedroom, which will give you the courage to make sure your wants and needs are being met.”

That said, while I love a good cocktail just as much as the next person, turning to alcohol to manage stress levels is only going to backfire. Not only will abusing alcohol negatively impact your health, but it can also hinder your ability to perform in the bedroom and orgasm—which is only going to stress you out more. So, find healthy outlets, and use them to release the stress in your life.

12. Upgrade missionary position

Missionary is often viewed as “vanilla,” but the truth is, it is anything but. Not only is it great for emotional intimacy, but it’s also one of the easiest sex positions to spice up and enhance. Incorporating sex pillows, bringing in sex toys, prioritizing clitoral stimulation, adding lots of lube, and zoning in on erogenous zones, like the neck, nipples, and ears, are some examples of ways you can upgrade missionary this year.

13. Build self-love

The most important relationship we have is indeed the one with ourselves, and having a satisfying sex life can be difficult if you’re not comfortable in your own skin. We all struggle with insecurity at times, but emphasizing building self-love will help increase your confidence inside and outside of the bedroom, which will give you the courage to make sure your wants and needs are being met, with or without a partner.

Self-love and compassion meditations are great for boosting your confidence because they’ll help you learn how to truly love and appreciate your body, change the inner dialogue you have with yourself, and ultimately build your self-esteem. Additionally, take the time to really feel your body—give yourself hugs randomly, admire yourself in the mirror, or caress yourself when you’re soaping up in the shower or bath. Shying away from touching and embracing yourself is only going to hinder your sexual confidence.

Masturbation is also a great way to work on building self-love. Remind yourself that you are deserving of pleasure, and orgasming is really, really good for you. Plus, pleasuring yourself will help you feel more sexual, which will naturally boost your libido. “Masturbation is a means to kindle our eroticism, explore our erogenous zones, and enhance our libido,” EdD William Kolbe tells The Healthy. When it comes down to it, loving yourself and your sexuality will help you unlock pleasure like never before, and give you the best sex of your life in 2025.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Arianna Reardon, Contributing Writer

Arianna is a Rhode Island native, professional blogger, and freelance writer. She’s passionate about helping women develop healthy relationships with money, become financially independent, and invest in themselves for the future. Arianna is a firm believer in going after what you want, taking time to stop and smell the roses, and the importance of a good cocktail.